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Feeling Jealous Can Actually Be A Good Thing…
As long we capture the message our jealousy is delivering.
Jealousy is a natural human response to life’s various ego traps. Ego-traps are situations we put ourselves in, where we feel compelled to assert or display our dominance. The ego devises elaborate traps to keep itself at the forefront of our psyche, to maintain control. And it’s perfectly normal and okay trip out in the middle of our self-created ego-traps.
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We deserve whatever we get when we opt-in to game play.
Realize that none of us is perfectly well-adjusted. We’re each riddled with insecurities that fuel our ambitions, which in-turn only increase our insecurities and worries.
Life Is A Constant Balancing Act
We only know for sure that we’re going to die. We don’t know what’s after that. We also know that the Universe is ever-expanding, that Nature itself is the definition of awesome, and that we are but one speck in the “grand scheme of things.”
So there’s a natural psychological pressure to achieve something within our limited time and material existence. We’re trying to prove to ourselves that we matter. It’s a completely normal, sensible, and valid response to an overwhelming and wondrous Universe.
Humans are caught between accessing our inherent power – the natural ability to imagine, create, nurture, inspire, improve, and ultimately help and love ourselves and one another – while also trying to control our baser impulses, which very often abuse, distort, and exploit this inherent power (aka the divinity that resides inside the humanity).
Jealousy Is A Baser Impulse
It’s a strong reaction to feeling insignificant or powerless. Jealousy is actually a disguise that our powerlessness puts on, to resemble fury, disgust, contempt, or even sadness. Jealousy wears many masks to hide the truth in any given moment where we’re feeling small.
It’s perfectly, 100 % okay to feel small, or to feel angry or sad about feeling small. When we’re jealous and we know it, that means our inner guidance is working. When we feel triggered and insecure, or possessive and out of control, or even contemptuous we’ve unlocked an achievement.
Here, we’re tapped into our internal emotional compass. Identifying our unfavorable emotions actually empowers us to begin cultivating our better emotions. When confronted with our own jealousy and feelings of worthlessness we have two choices:
- We can try to avoid these feelings through denial, by leaning into our ego’s basic drive to prove its own invincibility, thus creating more traps that only multiply these crap feelings.
- Or, we can face our jealousy, insecurity, and powerlessness head on. We can look at these feelings and say:
“I don’t like this. I don’t want to feel this way. What’s the opposite of this feeling? What circumstances, events, places, or people provide me with the opposite of these bad feelings?”
We have to be actively engaged in mental dialogue with ourselves and our emotional responses. Once we face our inferiority, we can start the creative work of imagining new feelings, new surroundings, new interactions, and more opportunities to heighten our emotional security.
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The most important thing is that we retain control and ownership of our emotional responses.
Sure, people and environments can be triggers to our fears and baser emotions, but it’s always up to us how long we want to endure certain emotions, and how intensely we’re willing to allow them to affect us.
That’s why I always say, if you’re feeling powerless, small, ignored, or unsafe in any situation ever, just leave. Extract yourself immediately. Explain yourself later. Removing yourself from a triggering environment is an exercise in personal power. It’s the fastest way to experience the immediate effects of actively participating in your own life, adjusting your frequency, shaping your own reality, and manifesting your ideal circumstance.
There are different ways to extract yourself, and sometimes they manifest by temper tantrums, or explosive arguments, or even violence. You probably want to avoid reaching that point. The easiest, most simple method is to physically detach and remove yourself from people and settings that trigger negative emotional responses. Take space, and evaluate.
The purpose of your emotions is to wake you up to what’s not serving you. Listen to them, but don’t allow them to run a muck. Remember, you’re allowed to feel all your feelings, and how long and how deeply you get into them is up to you.
